I give up, I can’t do it anymore. If I were on the “Apprentice,” Donald Trump could not fire me fast enough because I quit! I have never been a punk, running away from difficulty. And I think I’m a good actress, but the role of Florence Nightingale is too big for me. I yield; I’m taking off the super savior cape, and turning in my papers.

If you need to be saved, don’t call me, I need to be saved myself. The only advice that I can give you, is to call on the one that I’m leaning on; call Dr. Jesus. Unlike me or any other human being, he’ll never leave nor forsake you. Sometimes as human beings we take on more burdens than we can bear. We take on other people’s problems which can overwhelm us and get us off of our mark. How can you rescue anyone else when you’re frazzled and burned out? I don’t mean to sound selfish but I am, and my resignation is long overdue. That’s why Deya the deliverer is off duty. I hereby, officially resign as the Project Manager of other people’s drama.

Unlike Florence Nightingale, who’s been credited with revolutionizing the field of nursing, I have never been a nurse. And unlike Christ, I have never died for anyone’s sins. So why do I continue to do the impossible: That is helping people who won’t help themselves? I’m simply not equipped. Do any of us have the ability to make someone do what we want them to do, if that’s not what they want? This may be one of life’s hardest lessons. You cannot control other people and to try is simply futile.

Let me keep it real and simple. As a wife, I cannot force my husband to clean up the house. As a daughter, I can’t force my mother to agree with my opinion about her business. As a friend, I can’t make my girlfriend leave her man. As a mentor, I can’t make a young lady take school seriously. These examples, while simplistic, can go much deeper with our life’s issues.

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Deya is the author of an exciting upcoming book titled Politickin’ 101: Girlfriends-Style! A former Miss Black USA, this writer, actress, producer, motivational speaker and political activist; Deya can be heard daily on XM Satellite Radio’s The Power, Channel 169, and is co-host on the nationally-syndicated radio program “On The Phone With Ti-Rone,”’ produced by Babysitters Productions. For speaking engagements or for more info on Deya Direct! Contact: Deya @DeyaDirect.com or DeyaDirect@aol.com.